Most of us will agree that when we meet someone special, romance plays a huge role in developing the bond we share with each other. When we are romantically in love, if you will, life seems grand. Happiness and joy are abundant. Unfortunately, life’s situation (reality) steps in eventually, and that incredible, drug-like, euphoric experience, which seemed to be there by default, vanishes as mysteriously as it appeared. It is much like money we could stumble upon, perhaps by way of gift, lottery, or inheritance, that quickly vanishes because it was never really earned. If you don’t play an active role in the creation of your life, things will continue to come and go as if everything is being manipulated by some unknown outside source. Hence the basis of this book, Stop the Rain Dance. You will learn to create the life you want first, and then when you have succeeded, you will own it. You will be free to recreate it whenever you choose and in any manner you see fit. However, as long as you believe that something “out there” is controlling your life, then unfortunately, you will never know the joy of true living. If you want more out of life, you will need to actively create the life you want one moment at a time.
Romance can mean a lot of different things to people. For a lot of couples, it it’s there in the beginning and fades over time. Yet most people will admit that romance is quite desirable. So, how does one sustain romantic love? Most people think of romantic situations or just making love. But it is so much more than that. Romance itself may be defined as “the expressive and pleasurable feeling from an emotional attraction toward another person associated with love.” For me, being romantic (the action or intention) is about sharing a sensual experience, but still, there’s more. If you want to take ownership of your love life or the direction your relationship is going, I suggest redefining your role. Do you want to be a passenger or the captain? A passenger is hoping that he or she will get to his or her intended destination but has little say in the process other than just being present. Being the captain requires more effort and responsibility, but the rewards are tremendous. You can actually choose where you want to go in life, set your course, and take the credit for reaching your destination, knowing that you can repeat the process at will. If you want romance, you must be romantic. So let me share with you my definition. In my opinion being romantic is actually taking responsibility for creating joy in your relationship. You do what it takes to make that happen whenever and as often as you like. You create your world when you change your perspective.
Now, how does one do that? I believe that when one feels romantic, one invariably “pays it forward.” It always starts with a spark (the desire or intention of giving) in a setting that stimulates the senses (moving music, the elusive shroud of rain, sweetness of laughter, exotic fragrances, stimulating conversation, delicious food and wine, massage, touch, etc.) and, most importantly, being cognizant of the power behind it all. Specifically, it is the power to transform the ordinary into the magnificent. If you’ve been there, you know what I am saying, but if you haven’t, this may seem like foolish nonsense.
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Writer, physician, inventor, talk show host and entrepreneur, Dr. Stagl empowers others through his book Stop the Rain Dance by offering practical tools to achieve a balanced and rewarding life. With his diverse background and never-ending search of life’s universal principles, he will share with you how to create a better life for yourself and the world around you. www.StoptheRainDance.com